We know it can be quite an adventure to start online dating. You're diving in head first, without knowing exactly what to expect or what (not) to do. So, over the past decade we've collected a couple of valuable dating tips, to help you make the most out of your time here at Christian Singles Singapore.
Add your photo's
Profiles having photos are up to ten times more popular. And everyone loves to see the face that comes with the message. Also, you will only be featured on other singles' match list if you added a profile photo. Pick a clear, recent picture of your face. Bonus tip: a smiling face is inviting and looks friendly.
Share more about yourself
Extensive profiles are sure to receive more messages, as they are interesting reading material. So write catchy, creative essays to express yourself. Be honest about who you are and what you're looking for — do not tell half-truths. By being yourself you may prevent misunderstandings and disappointments.
Take the first step
Don't sit and wait until that one cute single sends you a message. Instead, take the lead and start writing. Ladies, this applies to you, too — the times they are a-changin'. Birthdays are a great occasion to send the first message and wish someone a happy birthday. Also, you can welcome new members; as the saying goes: "The early bird catches the worm".
Show genuine interest in others
When you start e-mailing or chatting with someone, pick up on what appeals to you about their profile. Be specific, for instance by asking about something you read in their essay, or by talking about shared interests. It's a great way to jumpstart a lively conversation. More importantly: your match will appreciate your personal attention and genuine interest. In contrast, copying the same message to dozens of singles is a very bad idea — it will have the opposite effect.
Don't give up
Being rejected is never easy, and not receiving a reply can be discouraging. However, don't be disheartened and don't give up. Continue to reach out to other singles. Be patient. Keep on trusting God, claiming his promises. The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
Be courteous — reply
The number one complaint on dating sites? Getting no reply. Maybe you get a message from someone that is clearly not your match. If anything, have the courtesy of replying — wouldn't you want the same? It's better to politely tell someone you're not interested, than to ignore that person all together.
Step outside your comfort zone
Singapore is an international hub and a cultural melting pot. So you'll find singles from all kinds of (socio-economic) backgrounds and ethnic groups here. Maybe you have a clear cut image of what your match would look like. But what if you're wrong? What if God has other plans? Step out of your comfort zone, and give other singles a chance — what do you have to lose? Perhaps you'll end up being great friends. Perhaps you can encourage each other.
Focus on the journey, not the destination
If you're dead set on finding your soul mate, you're subjecting yourself to an enormous amount of pressure. You'll have a hard time dealing with disappointments. You won't be able to enjoy the little things happening here at Christian Singles Singapore: a new message from a cute single, an uplifting chat, an encounter that broadens your horizon. So relax! Don't think too much about your 'goal'. Instead, enjoy Christian Singles Singapore like a roller coaster ride.
Don't get ahead of yourself
If your main focus is getting married ASAP, you're not giving others enough leeway. Your pen pal will feel pressurized. So it's counterproductive: the more you're set on finding a girl/boyfriend, the more others will be put off. So don't come on too strong in your first few mails or chat sessions with somebody, and don't treat others as 'potential partners' right from the start. Be lighthearted and natural.
Check your spelling and grammar
It shows you're neat and punctual, and you put effort in writing your message. On the other hand, major spelling or grammar mistakes makes your message less enjoyable to read.
Keep your profile up to date
Regularly add new photos and update your essays. Keep answering new match questions. You'll get more visitors and more response. Also, other singles will notice that you're still an active Christian Singles Singapore member.
Remember you're a representative of Christ
Mind your manners and your language. Stay friendly and polite. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Let your gentleness be evident to all. Remember that the singles you're meeting here at Christian Singles Singapore are your brothers and sisters in Christ.
Involve the Lord in your quest
While searching for your soul mate, don't lean on your own understanding, but pray frequently about it. Ask for God's guidance, while reading your Bible regularly. Then the Holy Spirit will reveal God's perfect plan for your life and future relationships. Do not be anxious about anything. Allow the Lord to go before you. Listen to his voice — he is the good Shepherd.